Tuesday, 11 January 2011

Family matters ;-)


My dear dad has Alzheimer's.
He's had this for some time and probably for longer than we all realise.
However, since Christmas, his condition seemed to worsen a little
and, last week, it was decided that he would spend two weeks in a nearby care home.
This not only gives the Dr a chance to assess him further but also gives
my lovely mum some badly needed respite.
And so, after some protest and a rather stressful couple of hours
yesterday morning, my dad finally went off for his 'little holiday'.
We tried to explain this to him as best we could.
But of course, anyone who has dealt with someone who has this
condition, will know full well that no sooner do you finish
explaining, then they have forgotten ...
and you have to start all over again!
Gold stars all round for patience!

We all realise that this must have been quite an ordeal for him.
And also for my mum.
But with being woken anything up to six times a night
my mum was becoming exhausted!

So, I just wanted to say that during the next couple of weeks,
I will not be around very much in blog world !

Take care everyone ;-)

x

38 comments:

KC'sCourt! said...

Oh Sal poor you. I remember it well with my MIL.
Julie xxxxxxxx

Menopausal musing said...

Ah, that explains it........ when I saw your little picture in my sidebar I was thinking I haven't seen much of you recently. I am sure all of this is for the best in terms of giving your mum a rest and your dad the opportunity for a "little holiday". Take care of yourself too Sal! x

Puppet Lady said...

How distressing for you all, but I hope the visit gives your mum some respite and the doctors are able to carry out their assessment. Locally we have a support group for Alzheimers relatives and carers. If you haven't already done so, it may be worth trying to find one in your area, as being in touch with people in a similar situation can sometimes be a help.

Alix said...

Thinking of you at what must be a difficult time. Hope your Mum has a good rest and that your Dad's assessment will help everyone in times ahead.

x

Hen said...

Hi Sal,
I feel for you all, I really do. As you're aware, I know exactly what you're going through. My nan is in hospital still and deteriorating but the family have finally realised that she will have to go into a home. It's so sad really, she and my grandad have been married over 70 years and rarely been apart. Nan also gets up and wanders constantly in the night and has fallen several times now. It's an awful illness. Thinking of you...
Hen xxx

summerfete said...

Hi Sal, you take care of yourself and your family :)

Blogging can wait!

Love Clare x

Andi's English Attic said...

Oh your mum will need this rest. My life has been touched by this horrid condition. My best wishes for strength and patience to you all. xx

Lalabibaby @ Dreaming of The Simple Life said...

It is such a cruel disease isn't it .... wishing you all well and hope mum gets her well deserved rest x

Bobo Bun said...

Not an easy time for any of you. Hopefully your mum will be able to get her rest and your dad will be as settled as possible in the circumstances.

Lisa x

sarah-jane down the lane said...

Oh bless you Sal, this is so very hard. I am thinking of you and yours............

Sarah x

LissyLou said...

so sorry Sal. My nan had alzhiemers and i know how hard it is for everyone involved. Thinking of you x

Twiggy said...

Take care of each other, I'm really sorry Sal, what a terrible illness this is.
Twiggy x

Gina said...

You take care too Sal. I hope your Mum gets the rest she deserves.

Amanda said...

Tell your mum to take care, get a much needed rest. I used to work in a care home, it was a lovely place and I've got happy memories. Theres always negative press but never the positive side. I hope it works out for you all.

Jewels said...

Sal - my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I too have elderly parents and am starting to deal with dementia with my Dad. It is hard to believe how much it takes to ensure your parents are safe and comfortable as they move through their twilight years. But it is worth it because of all they gave us as we grew up. Does not, though, negate the fact that for some of us there are greater challenges. Please be sure to take time to take care of yourself as you go through this with your Mum. We will all still be here when you are ready to come back...

galant said...

This is a very difficult time for you all, Sal, our thoughts are with you. Rest as much as your work allows, and fondest love to you and your Mum and family,
Margaret P

Vintage from the Village said...

Thinking of you
Sue x

Carol said...

Thinking of you and your family.
Carol xx

Jane W said...

Thinking of you and your family. Take care.
Jane W

Ragged Roses said...

Thinking of you all, take care Sal
Kimx

Suzie Sews At DOTTY RED said...

Popped by to wish you Happy New Year, read your post and my heart goes out to you, my friend is going through watching her Dad go through this and indeed I am seeing signs of it in my own Mum, its such an emotional thing, I send you love and I am thinking of you and your family. Take care yourself. X

Susy said...

I've been there with
My dear grandmother a few years ago,
I know what it means, can be painful
and nerve-racking and it takes a lot of patience.
Many many good wishes
SUSY

Bohomumma said...

thinking of you and your family at this time and sending you all much love. Take care of yourselves and each other through these challenging times.

Florence and Mary said...

I can only imagine how hard it is for you all, sending you all the best

Victoria xx

Country Cottage Chic said...

It must be hard for all of you - especially your mum - hope she manages to get some rest.

Jayne

funkymonkey said...

All the best to you and your family Sal. Hope your Mom is able to have a good rest.

Tracey

The Vintage Bazaar said...

So sorry to hear your news, what a tough time for you all. My thoughts are with you Sal. Take care. Lizzie x

sweetmyrtle said...

Hi Sal, popped over to wish you a very happy new year and am very sad to read about your father having Alzhiemers. As you know two of my grandparents also had Alzheimers and as a family we fundraise for the Alzheimers society who support families affected by this condition and who also fund research. thinking of you and your family and sending love and prayers.
ginny x

Smiffy said...

Oh dear, such a sad post. But you have done the right thing, your dear Mum really needs this break. Enjoy your two weeks together and I'm sure your Dad will be very well looked after too hun. S x

THIS'N'THAT said...

Hi Sal, So sorry to hear your news. I know it's a difficult time for you and your family. I guess that your Mum will enjoy the break and your company too as she recharges her batteries. Much love and best wishes.
Lesley XX

Cowboys and Custard said...

Dear Sal I know how hard this has been for you over the last year or so. I hope for everyone's sake that your father settles into his new home and you can all have some respite.
Thinking of you at this difficult time.
Michele x

Bobbie Lynn said...

Dear Sal,
My God bless you and your family. I will keep all of you in prayer. My Grand-father had Alzheimer's too. Very difficult times ahead. Take care of yourself and we will be here for you when you get back.
Blessings.

Rosie said...

Understand completely what you and your Mum are going through - we went through a similar time with my step-father. Take carexx

Simone said...

Sorry to hear about your Dad Sal.x

penelope10 said...

Sending you the best for your Dad and family, during this difficult time.

Leisa said...

Such a hard time for you Sal. I think the grieving process is the hardest because of the feel of loss while they are still here. Thinking of you and your Mum as you care for your Dad.

*✿*millie meadowsweet*✿* said...

aww....just read this.

warmest hugs xxx

Louise said...

So sorry to read this Sal. Your poor Dad, what a wrench for him. Also worrying for your Mum. Illness is hard on all the family. Love to you all. x